How To Resolve 3 Common Relationship Problems
Binahtiyah Caldwell
Most relationship problems start even before you get into one. This can be broken down into when people in the relationship are feeling that there’s not enough or poor communication in the relationship. In addition, there’s a power struggle around money and sex and how to best repair the damage when the trust is broken.
Here are some valuable things you can start to practice with your spouse to resolve and strengthen your relationship.
#1 - There’s not enough or poor communication in the relationship:
It’s hard to resolve any issues you may be having in your relationship if you or your partner are distracted, have poor communication skills or have differing views about life, love, money and happiness. It’s hard to communicate while you're always checking your iPhone, YouTube, or TikTok. The problems come when you do not listen to or respect each others views. Everything is energy, whether it’s your thoughts, words, feelings or actions. All of them are expressing a form of communication.
Solutions:
Make a commitment to improve your communication skills with your spouse and also with others. What you think, say and do can have a positive or negative outcome in all your communication dealings. You communicate energetically first before your voice is heard. So if you’re thinking something negative before, during or after a conversation with your significant other, then he or she will feel that vibration even before you open your mouth.
Here’s a few additional tips:
Have some simple rules or guidelines to help with your communication.
Be present and listen actively. Don’t interrupt one another (be sure to practice, practice, practice this one).
Choose a time and place (do not do anything in your bedroom other than sleep and have great sex activity).
Get ready for tough conversations (listen to music, go down happy memory lane, watch something funny).
#2 - There’s a big power struggle around money and sex:
Power struggles around money or sex, aren’t usually even about sex or money. Most often, power struggles stem from childhood issues involving your parents and how you were socialized growing up. When both partners lack awareness of where this is coming from, it’s easy to shift the blame to “not enough/too much” sex or “not enough money”. (I’ve never heard anyone complain that they have too much money or too much great sex.)
Solutions:
SEX - You may not agree with me on this one, however; make an actual appointment with each other. Yes, we’re all very busy people and when you factor in the little people or big teenagers that demand a portion of your attention, then yes, you must do whatever it takes to make it happen. Having sex energetically entangles you with your partner physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. If you or your spouse cannot resolve this issue, we recommend Body Alignment to help get you started on the right path.
MONEY - Honesty is always the best policy. Don't hide income or debt from your partner. Most of us grew up with a negative outlook when it comes to having money or the lack of it. Before blaming or attacking your spouse, check yourself first, even if you might be correct. Know which of you is the spender or saver. It may be both of you. You may call it money, but it’s also energy (“currency”). This current has to move in a certain direction of flow. You’ll have to work together on creating a viable financial solution for your family.
#3 - How to repair the damage when the trust has been broken:
When there has been a breach of trust from either spouse or both, you have a choice and a decision to make on whether or not to repair and restore your relationship. This will depend upon both people and what results they desire in their relationship. The best policy is to be all about family and keeping the energy of love and connectedness.
Solutions:
- Apologize for breaking trust and accept full responsibility for it.
- Don't lie about it or blame someone else for your breach.
- Be ready not to be forgiven at first. Accept it, wait a while and try again.
- Allow your partner time to process what has happened.
- Get professional emotional therapy to help get back on track.
Be open and willing to work on your relationship to gain the results both of you desire. Things aren’t going to be better with someone else if you don’t address these issues first. Whatever energetic baggage you don’t resolve, you’ll be carrying into the next relationship, and that’s how energy works. Even if you decide to stay single - every person you meet, whether it’s personal or professional or even casual, your energetic baggage will be there waiting to be unpacked. Do yourself a favour and work on transmuting that energy to make it work for you and not against you.
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